The fragile word: Love

People have an intrinsic need to be loved. Every single one. Whether they put on hard outer shells that seems to say otherwise, or whether they choose to believe love, hope, trust are weaknesses, they want to be loved. The little spark of hope never dies, it lingers there for someone to see it, feel it, and bring it to the surface of their lives. Every one wants that experience of feeling appreciated, loved and honoured by someone.'Love is overated' they say, of course it is!! Its because we are constantly trying to define love, to fit it in a box that portrays our own ideas of what it should be, never just simmering ourselves in it, with no fragment of 'i might get hurt'. We wait, for our doubts and insecurities to prove that we were right, that there is no such thing as love. One thing we especially fall trap to, is expecting someone to love us the way we have never loved ourselves, we want the blanks to be filled in, which we never got around to filling. Isn't that just insane of us? Its hard, to get to a place where you truly love who you are, why can't people work with that before they start seeking for love. Love is hard. But its not impossible. Its a rare feeling.That is why you see frail souls that wait.for.love. Those fortified walls that we build around our hearts to prevent us from getting hurt, end up HURTING us. These days the heart is perceived as weak, senseless, naive. Even the people around you tell you that love is just a dream you soon wake up from. Have you ever loved with no expectation? With no ideal picture of what the love of your life should be like, should behave like? Not many of us have right? Our problem is that we package happiness into that ''he has to be loving, handsome, tall'' bullshit and all the mess we think we will find. 'The perfect match' is just an illusion(unless you create someone that will be and do everything you feel they have to, to make you happy which is just a long yawn, lol). We never just learn to take people as they are, to love them as they are, to actually tell them the truth you feel and see about them. Work on each other's weaknesses and irritating habits so that they eventually become strengths. Some relationships are meant to last for as long as they last and some, well, for a day or a month. Permanency is just a thing we wish for because we want that security, that we have actually invested ourselves, feelings(possibly money) into someone else and you don't want that to feel worthless. People end up treating you bad because you cling to permanency. Thats actually treating yourself bad. See yourself as you see the person you love. Value and respect who you are before you think someone else will do that for you. We don't love for just the sake of loving. Enjoy whatever joys you experience in your life as it unfolds. Nothing is permanent, i mean people die, they leave, its all just the process of this human experience. Love yourself and stop waiting to be loved. Thats how it starts. By being what you want from this world. Life becomes easier that way. Desires fade where there is love.